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\"Clarence<\/a>
Clarence Thomas, Anita Hill, Jon and me. Jon and I had an office romance — with a happy ending. Here, at a Zodiac News Service office party with friends Nancy and Steve Selvin at left. Barbara Newhall photo<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Note to Readers:<\/strong>\u00a0 I am still slogging away at my book project, so here’s another rerun from the archives. This is a story about the perils and pleasures of office romance. It’s one of the columns I wrote for the Oakland Tribune that will be included in the book I’m working on right now.<\/p>\n

Clarence Thomas’ Confirmation Hearing Revisited<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Today’s #MeToo movement was foreshadowed three decades ago when the Senate confirmation of Justice Clarence Thomas was nearly derailed by accusations of sexual harassment from a former colleague, Anita Hill. Thomas denied the accusations, the Senate confirmed his appointment, and Thomas remains on the bench to this day.<\/p>\n

Unlike today’s #MeToo movement, set off by allegations against movie mogul\u00a0Harvey Weinstein, the Anita Hill-Clarence Thomas story eventually blew over — but not before inspiring heated discussions of office romance and sexual harassment in households across the country, including mine.<\/p>\n

Office Romance \u2014 Is It Worth the Risk?<\/h3>\n

By Barbara Falconer Newhall,\u00a0<\/em>The Oakland Tribune, Oct. 20, 1991<\/em><\/p>\n

As last weekend\u2019s [Senate hearings] unfolded, Jon looked at me sheepishly and asked, \u201cWas I guilty of sexual harassment?\u201d<\/p>\n

He was thinking, and I was thinking, of those early, tumultuous days of our friendship, when we worked together on something called Zodiac News Service in a small, ink-stained, second-floor office on San Francisco\u2019s Howard Street.<\/p>\n

He was the boss. I was the assistant. We were in love.<\/p>\n

\u201cJon,\u201d I laughed. \u201cIf anyone was guilty of sexual harassment, it would be me.\u201d\u2019<\/p>\n

I had, after all, applied for the assistant\u2019s job. And I had applied for it knowing full well that it wasn\u2019t simply the job I was interested in. It was also Jon.<\/p>\n

Clarence Thomas, Anita Hill, Jon and Me<\/strong><\/h5>\n

He was my kind of guy. He was bright. He was handsome. He had the courage to borrow some money, hire some people, rent an office and go into business for himself. I liked that.<\/p>\n

It was my hope that if Jon and I worked together, day in and day out, that we would one day become friends. A solid friendship, I thought, might lead to a solid, long-lasting romance.<\/p>\n

I was right.<\/p>\n

Here were, years later, driving a station wagon through the Gold Country toward Yosemite Valley, two little kids in the back seat, the two of us plastered to the car radio, taking in the Anita Hill-Clarence Thomas hearings.<\/p>\n

We weren\u2019t the only American couple to find ourselves passionately involved in the issues being raised that day.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe talked and talked,\u201d says a co-worker who had spent the weekend with her husband in front of the television set. \u201cIt was actually very romantic.\u201d<\/p>\n

Romantic because my colleague\u2019s husband, like mine, shared her intense interest in the hearings. And, like mine, her husband responded to the hearings as she did. He believed Anita Hill.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt made me realize I made the right decision when I married him,\u201d my friend smiled.,<\/p>\n

Those had been my sentiments last weekend. Jon understood. He sympathized. He had no use for men who bullied women.<\/p>\n

The Anita Hill and Clarence Thomas Fall-Out<\/strong><\/h5>\n

Not every woman is lucky enough to have a husband or a man friend who understands. No doubt many women have been feeling pretty alienated this past week as they have come to the realization that their men just don\u2019t get the sexual harassment issue.<\/p>\n

\u201cHey, what\u2019s the big deal?\u201d they are hearing. \u201cHe didn\u2019t touch her. He didn\u2019t fire her. If she didn\u2019t like it, why didn\u2019t she just quit?\u201d<\/p>\n

This is trivialization of the problem, of course, and these days, hell hath no fury like that of a woman trivialized.<\/p>\n

A male co-worker predicts that the anger falling out of the Hill-Thomas hearings is affecting male-female relationships everywhere, and with long-lasting results. \u201cWatch,\u201d he says. \u201cWatch the birthrate plummet next June.\u201d<\/p>\n

And so, I can\u2019t come out against office romance. My own worked out very nicely.<\/p>\n

One could even argue that Jon and I benefitted from working together to so long and so hard, meeting deadlines, debating stories, sitting together at the end of the day, gossiping and teasing as we folded our newsletters and<\/p>\n

\"Clarence<\/a>
Clarence Thomas, Anita Hill, Jon and me. Jon’s and my office romance took place at the 1970s alternative news service, Zodiac News Service, which was founded by Jon. Photo by Barbara Newhall<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

stuffed them into envelopes, watching the stack of envelopes grow from small, tidy piles in the early says to large mounds that slid off our desks onto the inky floor as our subscriber list grew.<\/p>\n

One might say, because we spent all that time working together, keeping a news service and working relationship afloat, that by the time Jon and I got married, we were already married. We knew how to keep a marriage afloat.<\/p>\n

Still, office romances are risky, very risky, and I can\u2019t recommend them to everyone, especially not to those who aren\u2019t able to get a job elsewhere if things get sticky. An on-the-job romance can be distracting. It can interfere with your work. Feelings can get hurt. In many situations, it can get you fired.<\/p>\n

And, of course, there is the now very high-profile risk that one\u2019s overtures will be perceived as sexual harassment.<\/p>\n

But still, I think that for many Americans, the risk is worth taking. For many of us, the workplace has taken the place of the church social and the neighborhood picnic.<\/p>\n

When an Office Romance Is Worth the Risk<\/strong><\/h5>\n

It is a place to meet people, to observe them in a variety of situations, to pick up on what co-workers think of the object of one\u2019s affection and, finally, to submit the relationship to the reality test of day-in-and-day-out contact.<\/p>\n

Dating at the office is a less than perfect arrangement. But for many singles who are now feeling the terrible isolation I was experiencing back in the \u201970s, finding romance at the water cooler is a whole lot safer than finding it in a singles bar or personals column.<\/p>\n

Now that Anita Hill<\/a> has gotten men and women talking to each other in the workplace \u2013 about harassment, about women\u2019s issues, about fairness, about mutual respect \u2013 perhaps the workplace is now a better place than ever for men and women to be together, talk together, get to know each other and, every once in a while, fall in love with each other.<\/p>\n

\u00a9 1991 The Oakland Tribune<\/a>, republished by permission<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

More about Jon at “One Broken Ankle, and Two Lives Grind to a Halt.”<\/a>\u00a0 More about the dating scene at “He Never Called Me Back. Why?”<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\"Clarence<\/a><\/p>\n

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